…for the person you are today. All the experiences you’ve had since the day you were born, the people you hang out with, every choice you’ve made—good and bad—have got you where you are today.
If your heart sank when you read that, here’s the good news. It cuts both ways. While you can’t do anything about your past, everything you do from this moment onward is creating your future. You’re in the driving seat, so take control. It’ll give you the power to stop going round and round in circles. Break away, and head off in the direction you truly want to go. As Werner Erhard says;
“Create your future from your future, not your past.”
The first thing to do is opt right out of the blame game. It’s the easiest thing in the world to point the finger. You can try blaming your busy life for your junk food habit and poor health, the weather or that other driver for your accident, and if you run out of excuses try blaming the way good old Ma and Pa, but when you come right down to it you’ve got to take responsibility for your own life someday. Nobody else is going to do it for you. As my friend Christina said the other day as she put a pair of pleather trousers back on the rack;
“When I looked in the changing room mirror, there was no need to ask who ate all the pies. It was me.”
Before you point the finger of blame, remember: when you do that, three fingers point straight back at you. Make sure your conscience is absolutely clear before you make any accusations. And to clear your conscience, honesty really is the best policy.
Start now. Think hard about where you are now, and how you got there. Work out where you want to go next, then turn your back on blame, and make a list of the improvements you’d like in your life. Be honest. Where do you want to go?